“You’ve changed”: Hell yeah I have!
“You’ve changed” are the words a friend wrote to me today. They came after I explained my sober weekend knitting and my plans to learn how to sew (more on that coming soon). The words (that were hopefully well-meaning) struck a chord with me because, well, they’re true. I have changed and I’m grateful to be able to acknowledge that. The sober journeys I’ve embarked upon this year have shaped and changed me in so many wonderful ways I could never have imagined. I’m happier and healthier than I have ever been in my adult life, and it all started with ditching the booze for a month.
But what does it mean to be happier and healthier? What is the substance behind those words? Here are a few reasons:
I’m happier because:
- I feel more in control of my life
- I’ve learnt I can achieve what I put my mind to
- My relationships have blossomed
- My self-loathing is being replaced by self-appreciation
- I can see the beauty in everyday things
- My heart is full of gratitude
- I can feel a spark in my soul again
I’m healthier because:
- I’m not routinely pouring toxins in my body
- I’ve finally made time for exercise! Particularly yoga and cycling
- I’m more conscious of what I eat and take the time to cook
- I sleep. Every. Single. Night.
- I spend more time outside with nature
- I actively take care of my mind
Both lists are condensed; I could go on forever about how I’m happier and healthier in sobriety! It amazes me how the one decision to abstain from alcohol can have such an immensely positive effect on every area of my life.
So, how did I respond when my friend told me I’d changed? I responded, “for the better!” because, well, that’s also true.